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The Work of Being Happy

Happiness

We’ve just had a glorious couple days in Central New York with sunshine and temperatures reaching the 80’s!

Leaves were at their peak and we were able to clean out our garage just before the gloom, drizzle and cold set in again today!

This afternoon I discovered a blog by Gretchen Rubin called, “The Happiness Project”. I  think it might be an encouraging place to visit during the long, dreary days leading toward winter.

Sometimes when I’m gloomy, I’ve found it helps me to switch my thinking by encouraging another person. One way I’ve done this is by asking them questions that interest me and others around us.

Many of us have friends who are travelers. Here are some good questions Gretchen suggests we might ask those friends.

Anyone who has traveled will always be grateful for more than a two minute conversation about their trip, unless they are with a secret agency, of course. Have fun!

9 Questions To Ask About Someone’s Big, Life-Changing Trip.

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9 questions to ask about someone’s big, life-changing trip.

One of my resolutions is to Enter into the interests of other people’s lives. When you think of people getting along harmoniously – whether in a family, or among friends, or in an office – people make an effort to enter into the interests of each other’s lives.

My friend Michael Melcher (author of the terrific book The Creative Lawyer — which isn’t just for lawyers) pointed out to me an area where this is often an issue: with travels. It’s quite common for people to come back from big, life-changing trips, and feel let down because no one seems very interested in what they saw or thought or experienced.

Part of being a good friend, colleague, or family member is to show an interest, but this can be challenging. Often, people need help finding ways to talk about their travels in ways that are interesting to people who weren’t there.

I’m not much of a traveler, myself, but Michael is, and he suggested nine questions that you might ask, to enter into the interests of a newly returned traveler. The point, of course, is not to fake an interest, but rather to find a way to be sincerely interested.

1. What was the best moment of the entire trip?

2. What are two interesting things about China [or wherever] that the average person doesn’t know?

3. Tell me about one person you met.

4. Now that you’ve been there yourself, when you think of China, what’s the first image that comes into your head?

5. What was the hardest or most frustrating part of the trip?

6. Did anything go wrong that seems funny now? [I often remind myself of my Secret of Adulthood that “The things that go wrong often make the best memories.”]

7. What little, ordinary thing did you miss from your usual routine?

8. What did you learn about yourself?

9. Now that you’ve been to China, what are two other places you’d like to go?

What am I missing? Have you identified any questions that are good at invoking interesting conversation? And travelers, when you come home, what questions are interesting to answer, and that show interest in what you’ve experienced? Have you ever been frustrated by the fact that people don’t seem interested in hearing about a trip or adventure that was very significant to you? Because I’m not much of a traveler, myself, I know that I haven’t shown as much interest in people’s travels as I should have. Something to work on.

http://www.happiness-project.com/

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